It's true, I became
The Erotic Mother
and I'm not ashamed to say it!
A New Lineage
For as long as I can remember, I’ve watched mothers.
How they live.
How they love.
How they dress, breathe, sacrifice, shrink, numb, endure, or quietly ache.
Some seemed fine- held up by routine.
Some were obviously unhappy- disconnected from pleasure, from aliveness, from intimacy, from themselves.
Most carried the pressure of being “the perfect mother” while abandoning their own needs, desires, dreams, sensuality, and self-love.
Me- I had doses of all the above.
Somewhere along the way, society created the image of mother. Who she should be, where she should go,
what she should wear, what she should talk about.
When I started my path into healing, I went online to find courses, retreats, and inspiration. What I found shocked me; there was lots of options for conscious parenting, and lots of options for sensual women. But connecting motherhood to sensuality – there was nothing!
“I keep forgetting you’re a mum…”
I hear this constantly, and it always makes me smile.
Through their eyes I see what they see;
A woman so far from that typical mother archetype,
drowning in responsibilities, laundry and Netflix evenings.
I still live.
I dance.
I glow.
I dress how I feel.
I speak about intimacy.
I nurture my own body and my own joy.
I travel.
I pursue my dreams.
I watch the sunset almost every day.
The truth is:
My aliveness is one of the greatest gifts I give my daughter.
Because she sees a mother who is whole.
Not half of a woman pretending she doesn’t exist.
What I Teach My Daughter
(and What I Wish I Had Been Taught)
Our everyday life is filled with real conversations, emotional intelligence, and relational wisdom.
STORY TIME – One day (at 7 years old) she came to my yoni alter that I had next to my bed and was using for my daily practice. She picked up the mirror that lay there amongst many accessories and began to inspect her reflection. She instinctively reached her yoni (vagina) and started to examine what it looked like – for the first time. After a moment she remembered I was in the room with her and she got a little shy, her facial expression asked me if this was allowed. I looked at her and smiled softly. I told her that I do that too.
She was surprised. I left her for some moments and she continued to discover herself in the reflection of the
mirror.
𖣔 I felt like I broke generations of female repression.
𖣔 I felt she understood something that will shape her relationship with her body forever.
𖣔 I felt that she won’t need to reach my age before beginning to love all of her.
More recently (at 12) she joined me in a ritual where we painted our yonis together: mirrors, candles, music, and silence.
A moment I will never forget.
Moments like these are my gold.
Moments where I get to guide her heart & her body before the world teaches her to close it.
These days, as she enters the ‘rebellious’ teenage-hood: hormones, emotions, friendship dramas, I witness her moving through it all, with tools many adults still don’t have.
Because we talk.
About everything.
With honesty.
With depth.
With love.
This is conscious parenting.
It’s not about perfection
It’s about presence.
The Erotic Mother Path
This journey isn’t about sex.
It’s about aliveness, embodiment, and truth.
It’s about reclaiming the woman inside the mother.
It’s about becoming everything you wish to teach your child.
How can she learn courage if I don’t show mine?
How can she love her emotions if I hide mine?
How can she believe in her dreams if I never follow mine?
So yes, sometimes I see her less.
Sometimes I choose my joy, my passions, my growth.
And society calls that selfish.
But I know the truth:
Every time I rise, she learns how.
Every time I love myself, she finds her own self-love.
This is generational healing.
This is leadership.
This is motherhood in its highest form.
“You can only love your child as much as you love yourself.”
– Brene Brown
What I Want Every Mother to Know
𖣔 You do not need to choose between yourself and your child.
𖣔 You do not need to become smaller to be good.
𖣔 You do not need to abandon your sensuality, your body, your dreams, or your joy.
𖣔 Your child does not need your perfection.
They need your authenticity.
They need to witness a woman who:
• loves herself deeply
• sets boundaries
• honors her desires
• expresses her emotions
• dreams boldly
• feels safe in her body
• treats her sensuality as sacred
• lives with curiosity, softness, and courage
Your embodiment becomes their blueprint.
This is the Erotic Mother.
This is the new paradigm.
This is the revolution that begins at home.
And To Every Mother Reading This…
If you feel the whisper inside
that you want
more aliveness,
more truth,
more sensuality,
more joy,
more YOU
you are not selfish.
You are awakening.
And your child will thank you for it one day, I promise!
Preparing for her First Period
When my baby girl was 11, I gifted her a pink box. She opened it with so much excitement and then confusion as she found inside, only a scroll…
Workshop For Teens on
Body Image
It’s so sad to see teens today facing pressures that most adults are only now starting to unpack – constant comparison, Instagram filters, and YouTube videos that tell them their standards of beauty..
Daily Mama-Daughter
Love Letters
“Natalie Abraham, you are an amazing mother to our precious treasure, couldn’t ask for a better partner to share this wonderful experience… I’m fully inspired as always”
– Eliya’s Father, Now Ex-Husband
(I have an unreal story about the conscious uncoupling – but thats for another time…)